I was so excited listening to an interview with the author of Grit, I decided to test out if I could use these ideas to become the best dancer I can be. I already knew that “best” needed defining, of course.
Then I read a review of the book and its concepts. Based on this review, I’ve decided to go with the more overarching concept of conscientiousness. Although that doesn’t quite roll off one’s tongue, it has more scientific grounding, thus smacks less like overreach (which seems to be way too popular these days, especially amongst psychologists).
And then, echoing this article, there is what I’ve been taught: To not quit – even if it kills you or at least disables you. That’s why I stayed in my marriage way longer than it was healthy for me. That’s why I tried to make jobs work that were totally wrong for me. That’s why I stayed in my most recent coupled relationship longer than I ought to have. I just shouldn’t quit. Quitting is admitting some sort of failure, the message alludes. Grit, in contrast, is portrayed as something admirable. Maybe these attitudes are what really lead to burnout. It certainly lead to mine. It took me 6 years to recover from demonstrating grit while working full-time, defending myself against false accusations from an abusive ex, protecting my son from that ex, and raising him while at it. I don’t want to fall into that trap again!